Whenever I tell people, mostly men but some women too that I do not want to get married, they often look at me as though I’ve developed…… Read more “Having Children”
Blog
“Transactional”
After a three-year hiatus, The Rantings of Tesolil is back. The website has had a little revamp, but the purpose remains the same. Transactional. They set the…… Read more ““Transactional””
A broken record
I don’t want to sound like a broken record So even when I feel like I may combust Like I’m struggling to keep my head above water.…… Read more “A broken record”
Mini thought pockets
They say women like to come out of their “feminine energy” and revert to masculine energy – as if to say they (men) aren’t the ones that…… Read more “Mini thought pockets”
Amalgamation of thoughts
I added audio to this blog post, so now you can listen to me read my post out loud. Click the youtube link to listen now. https://youtu.be/Nxqc-hSJNdM…… Read more “Amalgamation of thoughts”
Wealth
I couldn’t understand when people would see me and assume that I only associated with money, luxury and materialism. I would see it as an insult on…… Read more “Wealth”
33
Age 33 also known as the “Jesus year”. 33 is the age Yeshua was when he started his spiritual and political revolution. Some psychologists have asserted that…… Read more “33”
A year later
This time last year I reached a new level in my journey of self- discovery. It was the full moon and I was on my usual 24hr…… Read more “A year later”
“You should…”
I find that people tend to offer unsolicited advice on what others should do with their physical appearance and how they should live their lives in general,…… Read more ““You should…””
Who is the writer?
I am an unintentional writer. When I say unintentional, what I mean is I didn’t intentionally decide to be a writer. Okay let me go back, I…… Read more “Who is the writer?”
“You know how Nigerian women are…”
This is a statement I heard a lot growing up and still hear a lot now. From immediate family members to men, women, and even other races-…… Read more ““You know how Nigerian women are…””
Sweetness of the soul
We are made of the same things as the stars in the sky.The same things that are in the soil, are in us.The same water that is…… Read more “Sweetness of the soul”
Beauty is Pain?
Beauty is pain? Who told you that? They lied. True beauty Natural beauty that we all possess That was given to us freely by The Most High. …… Read more “Beauty is Pain?”
71 Lessons
I have been in a few situations now where someone is being disrespectful to another human being but because the person supposedly has “money”, other people tell…… Read more “71 Lessons”
If your body is a temple of God…showcase your divinity.
If your body is a temple of God, why then do people claim that it elicits negativity and impurity in its natural form? Why punish and restrict…… Read more “If your body is a temple of God…showcase your divinity.”
I choose you
I choose to love my people unapologetically because I am them and they are me Self love is to love self To love Africa Is to Love…… Read more “I choose you”
The Rebirth
*I started this post September 1st when I made up my mind to do it and finished it September 2nd once it had been done. September 1st …… Read more “The Rebirth”
The Happiness Quest
We say, “I want to be happy”.We say, “money doesn’t buy happiness”.Yet, we say we are not happy because we haven’t reached a certain level. We don’t…… Read more “The Happiness Quest”
God is Love
I could never be angry at God God is love .
Divine Timing
Your timing will always be Divine timing. If it hasn’t happened yet, It is because the Divine says it is not time yet, …… Read more “Divine Timing”
How Dare They.
𝐁𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞. Be it in the form of self and/or spousal. It petrifies them. How dare they tell us that we are not worthy…… Read more “How Dare They.”
New Year Feels
Happy New Year Tribe. It’s the spring equinox and start of the astrological new year. The beginning of a new cycle. I know we are in shaky…… Read more “New Year Feels”
May I
May I not make choices that hurt my soul. May I not make choices that hurt my spirit. May I always make choices that align with…… Read more “May I”
Black Woman
I adore being a Black woman. There is nothing else in the world I would rather have been born as. It’s ironic because that combination, as far…… Read more “Black Woman”
I took a chance on this stranger
I took a chance on this stranger And this stranger This stranger, he broke my heart Shattered it. My soul would rise up to meet him Eager…… Read more “I took a chance on this stranger”
The Accent Advisers
Ahh the “accent advisers”. I have to write about the Accent advisers. The numerous men that would tell me “babe don’t speak like that, it’s not cool,…… Read more “The Accent Advisers”
February 1st- My anniversary
February 1st It has been exactly one year since I started a new covenant with God. I sat on the toilet seat in Abuja, crying and begged…… Read more “February 1st- My anniversary”
To the bald white barbarian with shiny red boots on at Dartford Station
To the bald headed white man with shiny red boots on at Dartford train station. I hope I see you in court. Yesterday, (Saturday night) I was…… Read more “To the bald white barbarian with shiny red boots on at Dartford Station”
2019
The year i fell in love with my soul. The year I learnt to be still and listen, instead of resisting every time my soul would speak.…… Read more “2019”
To the ‘Strong’ Female Child
To the ‘strong’ female child. The vocal female child. The female child that defies the gender personality traits society has imposed. The female child that speaks her…… Read more “To the ‘Strong’ Female Child”
The Storm
Sometimes there is no manifesting your way out of a storm. Sometimes the storm comes to sharpen your ability to remain unshaken by outside influences. It comes to…… Read more “The Storm”
Reflections
I really did miss my hair. It’s wild that for the first time in my life i could not wait to take my braids out because I…… Read more “Reflections”
Be YOU till full
You are a version of Goddess I am a version of Goddess She is a version of Goddess We are all versions of Goddess Our own unique…… Read more “Be YOU till full”
“Omg imagine ‘he’ wanted to talk to me?!”
Self Worth- yes, know your worth and do not let just anybody or should I say any type of energy have access to you but when I…… Read more ““Omg imagine ‘he’ wanted to talk to me?!””
Dear white people- your opinions on how I should and shouldn’t wear my hair are never welcome.
So far, this natural hair journey has been a real stripping down of my layers in order to deal with unprocessed trauma I’ve accrued as a result…… Read more “Dear white people- your opinions on how I should and shouldn’t wear my hair are never welcome.”
Is it really Religion Vs Spirituality?
It’s funny how people (including myself in the past) think of religion and spirituality as having opposing doctrines. Most things deemed “spiritual” ironically, are frowned upon by…… Read more “Is it really Religion Vs Spirituality?”
Standard of Beauty
Why do you not know that you are beautiful? Why do you refuse to accept that? Why? Someone doesn’t comment on a pic…so you delete it. They…… Read more “Standard of Beauty”
Showcase
So I have decided to go on a natural hair journey. AGAIN. My hair has technically been natural for about 7 years now. I just always hide…… Read more “Showcase”
Emotions taken me over.
They make you believe that to be Yeshua (aka Jesus) like is to be boring, deprived, fun-less…I beg to differ. To be Yeshua like is to live…… Read more “Emotions taken me over.”
Unravel
See the thing is when I would think about my style and the things I like- I could never really fit into a box- I would rack…… Read more “Unravel”
Leanne Nelson-“From Victim Consciousness to Empowered Consciousness”
Happy new month guys I wish you joy, peace, contentment and positive vibrations. I hope this post touches you like it touched me! Todays’ Post is called…… Read more “Leanne Nelson-“From Victim Consciousness to Empowered Consciousness””
Love…Love? Love!
I’ve been thinking about conditional and unconditional love for a while and I have concluded that love can only ever truly be unconditional if it is at…… Read more “Love…Love? Love!”
The Life Experience
We sometimes think our lives are boring. There is nothing significant happening-we aren’t president or movie stars or athletes so our lives are insignificant. We are insignificant.…… Read more “The Life Experience”
Tell them
When they tell you that you are not enough. Tell them that they are lying. Tell them that The Most High has stamped you. Tell them that…… Read more “Tell them”
Tribe
It is an amazing feeling when you start to find your tribe. People who are really for you. You guys understand yourselves and understand each other. The…… Read more “Tribe”
CAN I?
Can I trust you with my soul Will you be gentle with it? Can I trust you with my heart Will you be careful with it? Can…… Read more “CAN I?”
I love my sisters
I love my sisters. The dark skin ones, the brown skin ones, the light skin ones. I love my sisters. The naturalistas, relaxed divas, weaves, braids, bald…… Read more “I love my sisters”
‘Moral Instructions’…I Cannot
I cannot at this point in my life date a man who is not a ‘feminist’. One that scoffs at the basic idea of ‘feminism’. I cannot…… Read more “‘Moral Instructions’…I Cannot”
Teso Uwaibi 